Choose wisely where you invest your energy.
You can invest your energy where ever you want. But understand that you can only invest what you have until it is empty.
When you face conflict you can choose how you want to respond. You can fight it. You can find a way around it. You can turn around and give up.
« Conflict cannot survive without your participation. »
– Wayne Dyer
It’s all up to you. No one can choose your path for you. If you follow someone, it’s not the responsibility of the person you follow, it’s yours.
Use your energy wisely. Because once it’s invested, it’s gone.
We’re living in a world of “How to”.
People are looking for fast way to solve their problem. Thinking that reading a 10 step is enough to solve anything.
Reading about how to solve a problem is good. But it’s only a step in the right direction, you’ll still need to do lots of work about it.
Stop expecting someone else to solve your problem.
“We always hope for the easy fix: the one simple change that will erase a problem in a stroke. But few things in life work this way. Instead, success requires making a hundred small steps go right – one after the other, no slipups, no goofs, everyone pitching in.”
– Atul Gawande
Problem are created by us. We create them to face the need for change.
“You don’t have a problem; you only think you do.”
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
If you focus on solving the problem, there will be options offered to you. It’s up to you to choose what you want to do. And take action about it.
“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
– Abraham H. Maslow
If you only have a hammer and it doesn’t work, this would be a great time to find new tools.
This one of my favorite quote by Albert Einstein.
“We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”
– Albert Einstein
Blaming someone will not solve a problem.
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame them, it will not change you.”
– Wayne Dyer
When you want to solve a problem, you need to understand what it means to you and what you should change about it.
No amount of blame will solve a problem.
Responsibility for what you did is all up to you.
The only way to change a situation is to take responsibility and find a solution.
Invest your energy into finding the solution instead of finding who to blame.
“Great leaders don’t rush to blame. They instinctively look for solutions.
– Nina Easton
Anger is directly linked to your Ego.
“Anger is an emotional response to being wronged, denied or offended.”
– Joseph Langen
The bigger your ego, the more reason to be angry you’ll find.
“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”
We think that we are what we have. We think that we are what we accomplish. And we evaluate others based on that.
“The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Ego, the false idea of believing that you are what you have or what you do, is a backwards way of assessing and living life.”
– Wayne Dyer
You can choose to leave your ego at the door. Let the haters be who they want to be. But not letting them implicate you into their hate spiral. Nothing good can come out of hate and anger. Keep yourself away from them.
“Leadership is not a popularity contest; it’s about leaving your ego at the door. The name of the game is to lead without a title.”
– Robin S. Sharma