Hard times are hard for everyone.
It’s how you choose to react to those hard times that makes the difference.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
You need to choose to look for options. It’s a choice.
Don’t wait for someone else to help you. Analyse, learn and then lay your options on paper.
As you put it on paper, you give them a tangible form. It’s the first step to resolve the hard times you’re in.
Then, choose to take action on one of the options you found.
There’s no guaranty that you will succeed with your action.
But you’ll surely fail if you do nothing.
We’re living in a world of “How to”.
People are looking for fast way to solve their problem. Thinking that reading a 10 step is enough to solve anything.
Reading about how to solve a problem is good. But it’s only a step in the right direction, you’ll still need to do lots of work about it.
Stop expecting someone else to solve your problem.
“We always hope for the easy fix: the one simple change that will erase a problem in a stroke. But few things in life work this way. Instead, success requires making a hundred small steps go right – one after the other, no slipups, no goofs, everyone pitching in.”
– Atul Gawande
Problem are created by us. We create them to face the need for change.
“You don’t have a problem; you only think you do.”
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
If you focus on solving the problem, there will be options offered to you. It’s up to you to choose what you want to do. And take action about it.
“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
– Abraham H. Maslow
If you only have a hammer and it doesn’t work, this would be a great time to find new tools.
This one of my favorite quote by Albert Einstein.
“We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”
– Albert Einstein
Are you a follower? Do you like others to choose for you?
Sometimes, it’s ok to follow. Most of the time it’s when you want to learn something that you can only learn following someone who can show it to you.
In reality, most will keep following because it feels safe.
Being safe following is an illusion. Letting someone else choose for you will never be all that you want. I can bring some good things, but it will never be all you want. In the end, you’ll always find disappointment.
“Each of you, as an individual, must pick your own goals. Listen to others, but do not become a blind follower.”
– Thurgood Marshall
Someone determine to reach for their dreams will only follow to learn.
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
– Og Mandino
Follower think that they don’t face the responsibility for their failure. They live in the illusion of someone else being responsible. It’s an illusion, we’re responsible of everything we take action on. Even if it’s after someone else request or order.
No one can take the responsibility for your action.