You build your life every day. Every little habits you have is there because you let it be there. If they are bad, you have to realize it and know that you need to change them. Then, and only then you can work on changing them.
“It’s impossible to redefine yourself and your life overnight.”
– Christina Aguilera
You can work on your habits and change them. But it will takes times and hard work.
“Our daily decisions and habits have a huge impact upon both our levels of happiness and success.”
– Shawn Achor
Sadness is linked to bad habits. The first step is to realize that the bad habits are bad habits. If you think its ok to have them, you can’t change them.
One way to understand what is a good habit is to look at the people that are living the life you want. Find out what habits they have and find out how you can have them too.
How can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself?
“When you are able to love yourself deeply, you can be kind to others.”
– Debasish Mridha
Be nice with yourself.
Set up personal time in your schedule.
That time is all yours and should not be spent for someone else.
“When you start loving yourself and respecting your time and energy, things will change. Get to know your worth, and your value will go up.”
– Germany Kent
How can someone else value you if you don’t yourself?
Celebrate your accomplishment. You don’t need others to sing your glory, all you need is to be proud of what you did. Be the one person for whom you are doing your best.
“Celebrate your achievements and victories without waiting for recognition from others; after all it’s your efforts which brought that accomplishment. A flower blooms in the desert with nary a person to appreciate its beauty, yet it blossoms, spreads its fragrance and enjoys its existence. A dew drop caught on the leaf in an unexplored forest sparkles like a diamond; it doesn’t need spectators to appreciate its beauty. You shouldn’t be dependent on others to encourage you instead be your own cheer leader… Love yourself to bits.”
– Latika Teotia
Habit are created with actions. You can create new habits if you start to do it every day.
Choose wisely, habits can be a blessing or a curse.
“Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don’t like to do.”
– Albert Gray
You can change your bad habits. Choose one thing and start to work on it.
Don’t look around for what is good for you. You know deep inside what you need to do. Stop wasting your time and do what you need to do.
“Winning is not a sometime thing, it is an all the time thing. You don’t do things right once in a while…you do them right all the time.”
– Vince Lombardi
Winners don’t spend their times, they invest their times.
Respect your time and others will do the same.
Taking action is doing what need to be done.
Fear is keeping us from taking action and go for our dream.
“Your wealth is hiding under the very thing you are afraid to do. It’s time to face your fears and take action. Expect Miracles.”
– Joe Vitale
Face your fear or give up on your dream.
Your dream will become if you take action. Nothing will happen if you stay stagnant.
“The best thing to do is stare it in the face and move on. We have to face our fears and plow through. I think taking chances takes a lot more courage than staying stagnant and doing what’s safe and comfortable.”
– Terri Clark
This is why some people live their dream and others don’t. They take ‘Actions’ when their fears tells them to stay stagnant.
Do you feel the need to be right in a conversation?
Most people do feel that need.
Why do we need to be right when we talk with others?
We don’t listen to learn and understand. We only wait for our moment to reply.
“Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.”
– Stephen Covey
When you choose to be right, you choose your ego instead of building your relation with that person.
“You can be right or you can be happy.”
– Gerald Jampolsky
Before you do your best to be right, think a little more about that bad habit. Are you sure that what you’ll say will help in anyway. If so, find a way to say it without attacking and hurting.
Getting the approbation of others is cool. But you should not build your motivation on that.
Your motivation should be built around a goal and a dream.
The approbation of others should be only a bonus when it comes.
As long as your dream is greater than your need for approbation, you won’t feel bad if people try to bring you down.
“If you care about people’s approbation, you will become their slave for life.”
– Abel Adamu Buba
Don’t become a slave for approbation.
When you ask for an advice, ask it for real. Don’t disguise your need for approbation when asking for advice.
“We ask advice, but we mean approbation.”
– Charles Caleb Colton
Smile and be happy when someone approve what you are doing. But don’t wait on that to keep going on with your creation.
Build on your dream, not on approbation.
The sheep syndrome should not your way.
You should take the responsibility for your life and take action on what you want to realize.
We want our dream to become true, but we don’t want to take action.
If we choose to stay idle, we choose to follow the dream of others.
Dreams collide. In the end, the ones that becomes true are the ones that didn’t gave up.
“Ideas are easy. It’s the execution of ideas that really separates the sheep from the goats.”
– Sue Grafton
Anyone can have great ideas. Only a few will take action on them.
Are you an action taker or a follower?